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Uninvited Guests - How to Share Hearts Instead of Words, Part 1

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32 min·October 14, 2025

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This message focuses on a candid look at communication. If you want to learn how to improve the communication in your marriage, to share hearts instead of just exchanging words, then join Chip.

Understanding the communication process:

Definition: The meeting of MEANINGS.

  • “Communication is the privilege of exchanging vulnerabilities.” -Norman Wright
  • “Communication is the process of sharing yourself verbally and nonverbally in such a way that the other person can both accept and understand what you are saying.” -Norman Wright

The complete message

  • Words alone = 7% of meaning
  • Tone of voice = 38% of meaning
  • Facial expression, gestures, posture, total non-verbal = 55% of meaning

5 Principles that will transform communication in your home:

  1. BE HONEST - Speak the truth in love. -Ephesians 4:15, 25
  2. BE ANGRY- Deal with anger appropriately. -Ephesians 4:26-27
  3. BE DILIGENT - Work hard on your relationship. -Ephesians 4:28
  4. BE POSITIVE - Don’t wound with your words. -Ephesians 4:29-31
  5. BE FORGIVING - Be the first to say, “I’m sorry.” -Ephesians 4:32

Practical skills and suggestions to enhance communication in your home:

  • The conference - A tool for listening. Ask Three Questions:
  1. What are you concerned about?
  2. What do you desire?
  3. What are you willing to do?
  • Word pictures - A tool for understanding
  • “Care” lists - A tool for building: List seven simple, loving, “caring behaviors” that are non-conflict producing and not expensive that make you feel loved by your spouse.

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